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The Bible Makes Us Baptists: Free Christian Book Audio

The Bible Makes Us Baptists, (originally called In Editha’s Days: A Tale of Religious Liberty), is a Christian book for children written in 1894 by Mary E. Bamford.  It is a work of historical fiction, narrating the life of an Anabaptist family in England running for their lives because fo their faith in the Bible, during the dark days when Roman Catholicism still controlled the United Kingdom.  You can order a physical copy of the book at Amazon (affiliate link), or perhaps get it more inexpensively at a place such as Book Heaven.

However, the main point of this post is to inform you that you can hear the book read aloud for free on my KJB1611 YouTube channel here.  The chapters are getting (pretty) consistently posted.  So if you, or your children, want to hear an edifying Christian book read aloud, please use the link below to listen to The Bible Makes Us Baptists read aloud for free.

Click here to hear The Bible Makes Us Baptists (In Editha’s Days; A Tale of Religious Liberty) by Mary E. Bamford read aloud for free.

TDR

 

“I’m sorry” vs. “I repent”

We often hear someone say, “I’m sorry,” after doing something wrong, or something that the person does not think is wrong but the person he is speaking to thinks is wrong.”  When one man says “I’m sorry” to another, the response can cover the range from “I’m sorry that I sinned against God and against you, because this is a godly sorrow, it will lead me to repent,” to “I’m sorry that you feel the way you do right now,” to “I’m sorry I got caught sinning,” to “I’m sorry that you are bothering me with your ridiculous complaint, and I wish you would go away and leave me alone–I didn’t do anything wrong.”

“I’m sorry.”

That range can be seen in the texts that contain the word “sorry” in Scripture.

 

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For example, Saul wants people to feel sorry for him when he is plotting evil, pursuing innocent David, and killing other righteous people right and left:

 

1Sam. 22:8 That all of you have conspired against me, and there is none that sheweth me that my son hath made a league with the son of Jesse, and there is none of you that is sorry for me, or sheweth unto me that my son hath stirred up my servant against me, to lie in wait, as at this day?

 

King Herod was sorry when he was asked to behead John the Baptist:

 

Matt. 14:9 And the king was sorry: nevertheless for the oath’s sake, and them which sat with him at meat, he commanded it to be given her.

 

In fact, Herod was not just a little bit sorry.  He was really sorry:

 

Mark 6:26 And the king was exceeding sorry; yet for his oath’s sake, and for their sakes which sat with him, he would not reject her.

 

Herod was “sorry.” Really sorry. He could have said to John, “I’m sorry about this,” and then gone ahead and ordered the guard to chop off the Baptist’s head.  He was “sorry,” but he certainly did not “repent.”  Being even “exceeding sorry” is not the same thing as being repentant.  Being “sorry” is simply saying that you have “sorrow” over something–whether that thing is your sin, or whether you are sorry that you didn’t get away with your sin, or whether you are sorry you can’t sin even more, is not expressed.

 

“I repent.”

 

Scripture does not say that if one sins against a Christian brother, he is supposed to say, “I’m sorry.” It does not say that when a child sins against another child, the sinning child should be made to say “I’m sorry.” Scripture says that when one sins against another, the sinning party is to say, “I repent.”

 

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Luke 17:4 And if he trespass against thee seven times in a day, and seven times in a day turn again to thee, saying, I repent; thou shalt forgive him.

 

This is not the place to do a comprehensive study of the Biblical doctrine of repentance, but the evidence provided here and in many other places indicates that genuine repentance always results in a change.  If I sin against you and say, “I repent,” I am telling you that what I did was sinful, and by God’s grace I will not do it any more.  I have sinned against heaven and in your sight.

 

If I say “I’m sorry,” I may mean the same thing as “I repent.”  On occasion being “sorry” is associated with repentance:

 

Psa. 38:18 For I will declare mine iniquity; I will be sorry for my sin.

 

2Cor. 7:9 Now I rejoice, not that ye were made sorry, but that ye sorrowed to repentance: for ye were made sorry after a godly manner, that ye might receive damage by us in nothing.

 

The sorrow of the Corinthians did lead to their repentance–that was good. But note that Paul specifically states that he was not glad that they had been made “sorry.”  He was only glad that they had repented as a result of that sorrow.  So even here, where sorrow and repentance are associated, they are still distinct.

 

Have I ever said “I’m sorry” when I meant “I repent”? Yes, I certainly have. Do I condemn parents who tell their children, when the children sin against another, “Say you are sorry!” No, I do not condemn such parents.  If someone sins against me and then says, “I’m sorry,” must I think the best (1 Corinthians 13) and assume he means “I repent,” and therefore forgive him, as commanded in Luke 17:4?  Yes, I certainly must forgive him, even though he did not say what Christ told him to say: “I repent.”

 

However, maybe we all ought to reevaluate our use of language in the light of Scripture, and start saying “I repent” instead of “I’m sorry” when we sin against another person (and also use this language when we confess our sins to the Lord).  Saying “I’m sorry” is easier than saying “I repent.” There is a lot more wiggle room in “I’m sorry.” Maybe we should start telling our children to say “I repent” instead of “I’m sorry.”  This is the pattern in Scripture, and it is always good to stick as closely to Scripture as possible.

 

TDR

Book Review: Parenting AAA: God’s Goals and Guidelines for Generational Spiritual Reproduction by Timothy Paul Geist

Timothy Geist is a pastor with Robert Sargent at Bible Baptist Church in Oak Harbor, Washington, a sister church. He was a career Naval officer before he surrendered to and was ordained a pastor.  In late 2020, he completed and his church published his book, Parenting AAA:  God’s Goals and Guidelines for Generational Spiritual Reproduction.  I hope you get it.  It’s a good book on parenting, and every parent needs scriptural help.

You will enjoy Geist’s book, whether you are a church leader or member, written in a style that digs deep but communicates in an understandable and practical manner.  He bases everything on the Bible and takes and proves all of his points from scripture.  Triple A sounds like a ranch or an auto insurance company, but it is the main outline of his book:  Authority, Associations, and Appropriation.  In his preface, he presents a helpful chart that summarizes the book nicely, providing scripture to buttress each point.  It allows you to own the entire content of his book with the easy-to-remember outline.

Someone could ruin a book on parenting by missing the point or the main points.  Geist doesn’t do that.  As I’m reading, I’m nodding my head and saying, “He’s got it right.”  My assessment is coming from someone who did not do as good a job as he did, and I wish I had.  It’s painful in that way, but a good kind of hurt that could prepare to aid others.

Geist does not skip any aspect of parenting.  Very often parenting books deal very well with one or two aspects and leave out others.  His book will help you if you aren’t yet a parent, are one of small children, or your kids are teenagers.  He doesn’t avoid the difficult topics in accomplishing this task.  He has the advantage of his children being old enough and his having seen success with them.  He has practiced what he preached.

Each main point in the book divides nicely into full and practical doctrine and practice.  Under authority, he writes on rules, relationship, and reason, giving a means of accomplishment, all fleshed out from and starting with the Bible.  He deals with the pitfalls that very often cause the failings for a parent.

As an example of the power and usefulness of the book, regarding relationship, which deals with a parent developing a relationship with his children, he emphasizes time, talk, and touch.  Those might seem like no-brainers, and they might be on paper, but every parent needs that emphasis.  He shows the scriptural nature of all of those means to a genuine, godly relationship of a parent with his child.

Geist has married, adult children, who wed godly spouses.  That didn’t just happen.  He followed the biblical doctrine and practice laid out in his book.  There is a right way and he explains it.  He divides all associations into people and things and spends sufficient time on each of those to deal with friends, heroes, music, television and movies, and education.  These are all tough subjects and he’s got a section on all of them as they relate to parenting.

Nobody will probably get everything right when it comes to parenting.  Geist comes as close as I’ve seen anybody.  You should take advantage of what he’s offering and buy a copy for you and others that you know.

Christian Parents Ought to Have as Many Children as Possible

“And they blessed Rebekah, and said unto her, Thou art our sister, be thou the mother of thousands of millions, and let thy seed possess the gate of those which hate them” (Genesis 24:60)

In the world today, the blessing above would be viewed as a curse.  Mother of thousands of millions!  Terrible!  Growing the influence of the godly over those who hate them by having many, many children? Are you crazy? We need to save the endangered bugs, not the people!  Sadly, many Christian families have also been influenced by the world’s way of thinking on family size.

Consider also Psalm 127-128:

A Song of degrees for Solomon.

1 Except the LORD build the house, they labour in vain that build it: except the LORD keep the city, the watchman waketh but in vain. 2 It is vain for you to rise up early, to sit up late, to eat the bread of sorrows: for so he giveth his beloved sleep. 3 Lo, children are an heritage of the LORD: and the fruit of the womb is his reward. 4 As arrows are in the hand of a mighty man; so are children of the youth. 5 Happy is the man that hath his quiver full of them: they shall not be ashamed, but they shall speak with the enemies in the gate.

A Song of degrees.

Blessed is every one that feareth the LORD; that walketh in his ways. 2 For thou shalt eat the labour of thine hands: happy shalt thou be, and it shall be well with thee. 3 Thy wife shall be as a fruitful vine by the sides of thine house: thy children like olive plants round about thy table. 4 Behold, that thus shall the man be blessed that feareth the LORD. 5 The LORD shall bless thee out of Zion: and thou shalt see the good of Jerusalem all the days of thy life. 6 Yea, thou shalt see thy children’s children, and peace upon Israel.

God says that children are His “reward,” and the man is “happy” or blessed who has a household “full of them.” The man who starts having children with his wife even from his “youth” is blessed. This is the way Jehovah blesses His people–children all around one’s table.  Lots of little mouths is His blessing, not a burden or a curse.  As in Genesis 24, lots of children leads to greater influence for the kingdom, peace and victory over God’s enemies, because of a greater number of saints.

If we go by Scripture alone, we would conclude that believers should seek to have as great a degree of God’s blessing in the area of children as in every other area.  If a Christian family would not limit God’s blessing them in other areas, they should not limit God’s blessing them with children.

Sometimes people say that if they have more children they will not be able to raise the ones they already have properly. But Scripture never says that one is more likely to have his children live for God if he limits the number of blessings God gives them. What if older children are more likely to be responsible and godly if they have to help care for other little ones? Would God’s blessing of more children really be something that leads to more rebellion and unconverted people?

Other people say that they cannot afford to have more children. But God who sends the blessing of children will enable you to take care of the children. Furthermore, if we cannot afford to have many children in the richest country that has ever existed in the history of the world, then for 99.9% of human history nobody could afford to have children, and none of us would be here.

If you are married, seek God’s blessing of children–as many as God can give you. Do it even from the start of your marriage in your “youth” (Psalm 127:4). That may be lots and lots–it may be a few–it may be none–God knows what is best for you.  But for your part, you should think it a wonderful gift if you could be a family that has thousands of millions of children, vastly increasing the number of righteous people in this world.

TDR

Millennials Will Rue the Day They Despised Authority

Authority proceeds from God.  When I write “authority,” I mean what the Bible says it is, and it is hierarchical (Romans 13:1-3).  It doesn’t violate scripture.  God created or originated authority.  It is necessary to accomplish His moral will (God’s sovereign will is always going to occur).  Authority orders the divine design of the world.  It will only work the way God designed, if authority is respected.

I’m not saying that all millennials despise authority.  I’m writing about millennials who do, and really anyone who does, but I focus on millennials because this is more characteristic of their generation.  Millennials will still want authority now and especially in the future.  They will need it.  Right now in the short term it is convenient for them to despise authority.

Why should anyone do what these millennials tell them to do?  If they do tell anyone to do, why should they expect them to do what they are told?  Why should these millennials ever possess any authority, if they don’t believe in it themselves?

Many Christian leaders today decry the apostasy of the day.  For all the possible causes, a perverted view of authority explains a lot.  In a rudimentary way, it is the underlying problem.  How?  Why?

God is in charge.  He uses under-authorities to be in charge.  He authorizes institutions — family, church, government, etc. — to order the world He owns.  Satan merely usurps that authority.  The response to authority is obedience.  The attack of authority undermines God’s institutions and then results in disobedience.  Salvation itself comes through the obedience of faith.  The faith is in God, Who is the authority.  His under-authorities are still His authority.  Someone who disobeys those, with the exception of violations of the Word of God, disobeys Him.  They are not believing in Him, because this is how He works, just like He used men for the writing of His Word.  In that sense, obedience to God is obedience to Moses, for instance. 

All of society breaks down with the position of these millennials on authority, really just so they can have their own way, just like Korah and his band with Moses in Numbers 16.  They will justify it or excuse it by saying that their authority is unreasonable or wrong or bad leaders.  They know best about leadership, how it’s supposed to be done.  In most cases though, they can’t even be challenged, these millennials.  They offer no due process, no discussion, no defense.  They are judge, jury, and executioner.  Like Rehoboam of 1 Kings 12, they look to their contemporaries, their friends, other millennials, as proof or evidence that they are right, their cronies on social media.

No one who despises authority as a practice is a Christian.  God is the Author of authority.  Again, I’m not talking about so-called authority that teaches or requires something contrary to the Word of God.  Just because millenials don’t like what they’re being told doesn’t mean that they can call it unscriptural, and that’s their simple, rebellious way out.

The despising of authority starts with not truly glorifying God as God.  The despising of authority is an outgrowth of not glorifying God.  You know someone does not glorify God because he despises authority.  It is indicative of a reprobate mind.

The benchmark or the norm for someone aligned with God is subjection to authority.  His instinct is to do what he is told.  He listens.  With God-ordained authority, he is swift to hear, slow to speak (argue), and slow to wrath (at what he’s being told) [James 1:19].  He is apt to do what he is told, rather than bucking it.

If you are millennial, and you despise authority, don’t expect your spouse to submit, nor your children.  Why should they?  You shouldn’t expect your employees to listen to you.  You don’t listen, why should they listen to you?  The culture that you spawn will be one that will break down because authority is necessary.  Your disrespect will come back on you.  There is no way that your world will work.

The millennial who despises authority won’t be in the kingdom of Jesus Christ, because Jesus expects obedience.  He is the King.  Your Jesus might be something more like a therapist, but the Jesus of the Bible, the only true one, will rule over the earth.  You won’t like His kingdom and you won’t be in it.  It is a kingdom of authority.

2 Peter relates despising authority to lust.  Lust then relates to self, to me, me first.  2 Peter 2:10 says:

But chiefly them that walk after the flesh in the lust of uncleanness, and despise government. Presumptuous are they, selfwilled, they are not afraid to speak evil of dignities.

They walk after the flesh.  Their lives are characterized by flesh.  Their music is fleshly.  Their entertainment is fleshly.  Their recreation is fleshly.   Someone who lives according to the flesh doesn’t want the restraint of a authority, hence, he despises it.  He is not afraid to speak evil of authority.   When the authority arrives to restrain, like the Holy Spirit, the Restrainer (2 Thess 2:7), he tears down the authority.

Righteous men are very careful with their authority, especially in public.  Righteous men don’t rebuke an elder, but intreat (1 Timothy 5:1).  This is seen in the servant/master or employee/employer:  “be obedient to them that are your masters according to the flesh, with fear and trembling.”  “Fear and trembling” is a non-starter with most millennials today.  It’s a violation of personal wellness and self-care.

Deuteronomy 5:1 says:

And Moses called all Israel, and said unto them, Hear, O Israel, the statutes and judgments which I speak in your ears this day, that ye may learn them, and keep, and do them.

There are verses like that all through Deuteronomy.  Moses says, these statutes and judgments that I speak, learn, keep, and do them.  That is how authority works.  Moses says something and everyone learns it, keeps it, and does it.  This is especially the message of the Bible toward parental authority, that is seen again and again in Proverbs.  This generation is even represented by Proverbs 30:11, “There is a generation that curseth their father, and doth not bless their mother.” The book of Proverbs reads very serious about this from God.  I’m going to publish all of these just so that you have them all in one place:

Proverbs 1:8, My son, hear the instruction of thy father, and forsake not the law of thy mother:

Proverbs 4:1, Hear, ye children, the instruction of a father, and attend to know understanding.

Proverbs 10:1, A wise son maketh a glad father: but a foolish son is the heaviness of his mother.

Proverbs 15:20, A wise son maketh a glad father: but a foolish man despiseth his mother.

Proverbs 17:21, He that begetteth a fool doeth it to his sorrow: and the father of a fool hath no joy.

Proverbs 17:25, A foolish son is a grief to his father, and bitterness to her that bare him.

Proverbs 19:13, A foolish son is the calamity of his father.

Proverbs 19:26, He that wasteth his father, and chaseth away his mother, is a son that causeth shame, and bringeth reproach.

Proverbs 20:20, Whoso curseth his father or his mother, his lamp shall be put out in obscure darkness.

Proverbs 23:22, Hearken unto thy father that begat thee, and despise not thy mother when she is old.

Proverbs 23:24-25, The father of the righteous shall greatly rejoice: and he that begetteth a wise child shall have joy of him.  Thy father and thy mother shall be glad, and she that bare thee shall rejoice.

Proverbs 28:7, Whoso keepeth the law is a wise son: but he that is a companion of riotous men shameth his father.

Proverbs 30:17, The eye that mocketh at his father, and despiseth to obey his mother, the ravens of the valley shall pick it out, and the young eagles shall eat it.

Many, if not most, of these statements are axiomatic.  A millennial may question them, but it’s like questioning the transitive property or some other axiom.  They are just true.  As you read them, millennial, you can question them or challenge them or just ignore them, but if they are you, then they are who you are.

You will notice that there is very little about the father and what he’s doing with his son, but it’s about the son and what he’s doing with his father.  If the father is disobedient to scripture, and teaches that, that’s bad, but this isn’t the issue.  There aren’t a series of verses that say, “Father, please thy son and make sure he gets to have his way and live like he wants.  Don’t be too scary.  You don’t want to hurt his feelings.”  Your millennial companions might listen to your complaints and justifications, but in the judgment of God, you are still guilty.  You won’t escape this judgment of God without repentance.  It’s on you, no one else.

“Disobedient to parents” characterizes the apostate in Romans 1 and in 2 Timothy 3 in those tell-tale passages.  Why is this so idiosyncratic of someone who has turned from God?  A person who won’t do what his parents want will not do what God wants.  The two are inexorably tied together.
It might seem like a world the millennial will like, one where he despises authority.  At some point, it will be his authority or all authority.  That is a society that is broken down.  It will not characterize the Lord Jesus Christ.  It is not His kingdom.  Millennials will rue the day they despised authority, including the final day characterized for him by weeping and gnashing of teeth.
If you are reading this, there might be an opportunity for you to repent, to consider your ways and turn from them.  You should do it before it’s too late for you.  It will not work out for you if you don’t.  You will regret and most likely for all eternity.

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