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God’s Grace As An Attitude Adjuster

James wrote that “every good gift and every perfect gift is from above” (James 1:17).  God keeps giving and giving and giving.  People do not deserve these good gifts.  They deserve the opposite.  People getting good things that they don’t deserve is God’s grace.

For a professing believer, what causes a bad attitude?  I contend the biggest contributor is his thinking that he deserves what he doesn’t or that he doesn’t deserve what he really does.  This is an unmet expectation.  He expects what he doesn’t deserve and then he doesn’t get it.

It is difficult to expect what I really do deserve.  I want better treatment, better consequences, better circumstances, or even better reactions.  Yet, I don’t deserve them.

When I think I got better than I deserve, that affects my attitude.  If I change my thinking to this thinking, based on what I know scripture says, it also changes my attitude.

God’s grace can adjust an attitude.  The professing believer must think God’s grace.  The attitude is the resultant emotion, either a good feeling or a bad one.

A bad attitude is an emotion that can turn to something deeper, like a kind of depression or discouragement.  This can become deep settled and change the trajectory of a person’s life.  He digs himself or even buries himself into a rut or hole.  He doesn’t make his way out.

The grace of God must adjust the attitude.  This adjustment occurs through the mind.  The professing believer thinks he deserves worse.  He keeps thinking he gets better than he deserves.  God does give him more than he deserves.

Sometime in Christian history, someone defined grace as “undeserved favor.”  Christians overall have agreed with this definition for centuries.  God gives us better and more than what we deserve.  This is God’s grace.  If we allow that thinking to permeate our mind, it will adjust our attitude.

The world makes it difficult to keep a good attitude.  This is why right attitudes very often are commanded, like “rejoice evermore” (Philippians 4:4).  They are commanded, because we might not have them.  His commands also mean we can have them, that we are able to have them.  God won’t command what He won’t also enable.  He wouldn’t command you if He didn’t also provide the power to keep the command.

When I write that the world system and its father, Satan, make for a tougher environment to have a good attitude, I am saying that it will still be a struggle.  When you hit your thumb with a hammer, you say, “Ouch.”  This is a kind of point Job mentions when he’s criticized by his friends.  When I talk about God’s grace adjusting the attitude of a professing Christian, I speak of the struggle.  This will help the believer not to sink into long term or permanent bad attitudes and struggle against short term wrong ones.

God’s grace can and will keep attitude struggles short term or win those struggles.  This is God’s will, but it is also important for the thriving and well being of the professing believer.  Believers will do better in ministry to and with others with a good attitude.  Even if people have a bad attitude themselves, they want you to have a good one when you are with them.

If you say, “God is good,” and then your attitude says, “God hasn’t been good,” it hurts the efforts for God with others.  Maybe you don’t even believe God is good.  God knows whether you think He is, but your attitude might be saying that you think He is not.  All of us should consider this.

What in the world could spur a bad attitude?  You know.  You are mistreated by several others. The people around you are not grateful for what you do.  You work hard without notice or credit.  One thing after another breaks.  People gossip about you.  You don’t have many friends.  Friends betray you.  You can’t get ahead with your finances.  School is a struggle.  Others are promoted ahead of you unfairly.  People don’t laugh at your jokes, and you think you’re funny.

No one is a victim of a bad attitude.  Someone else doesn’t cause it.  Your parents didn’t cause it.  Neither did your husband or wife.  You choose what attitude you will have.  Victimization is just an excuse.  It’s lying to yourself.

The joy of the Lord is our strength.  His grace will fuel that joy.  Like Paul wrote in Philippians 4:8, think on this thing.

The Generation Clash Symbolized by Meghan and Harry Versus Queen Elizabeth II

Less than a hundred years ago, one fraction of the world set itself to defend against an entirely different culture that wished to impose itself, and wipe the other out.  This wasn’t the first time.  Almost the entire globe participated in either attempting to change the world order, the dominant view, or keeping the older one.  The world rejoiced when the emerging order was defeated.  They continue to rejoice over this victory.  Many hundreds of thousands died to keep the status quo.

Today you reader, myself, and the rest of the world are in another cultural battle, a clash of civilizations, which represent again two separate views of the world.  One would like to do away with the other as much as the one in the middle of the twentieth century.  This is not a military battle, more of a civil cold war, between two factions characterized by two generations.  The consequences could be, however, as or even more serious.

The older generation itself is not pure in its representation of the source of the way of life, which it represents, but still stands in sharp contrast to the youthful one that pursues to replace it.  This brings me to the comparison of Meghan and Harry to Queen Elizabeth II as a helpful illustration.

I don’t care about Oprah’s interview with Meghan and Harry.  I didn’t watch it.  I read chunks of the script though in various articles.  I read that these two victims of great note were paid seven million dollars to help them in their new state of welfare minus their government support.  I think you can be sure that, ala President Obama, they didn’t build this though.  Everything they’re getting is based on a celebrity proceeding from their connection to what they’re attempting to crush.

Victimization sells to this generation.  It’s even a marketing strategy.  You know the power of victimhood when the privileged see it as a step up for them.  Yet, as the world falls apart under its type of influence, people will be looking to complain to someone about why they’ve got obvious problems, but there won’t be enough non-victims to listen.  Everyone will have to rush as far to the bottom as they can, but will anybody be left to care?  It will just be a victim competition.  The worst victims are those who must proceed from this ooze, the children of the victims.  Maybe we can find out that evolution is true and an advanced new species will climb out.  You all know that won’t be true.

What’s happening does remind me of the trajectory of the Northern and Southern Kingdoms of Israel.  I’ve just been reading them at high speed as part of getting through the Bible twice this year.  It’s a very sad story as the generations erode into near oblivion.  The only way the Southern kingdom, Judah, survives in a mutated form is by the grace of God, and it only survives.  It doesn’t come close to thriving.  The enemies of the nation don’t care that it’s inhabitants are victims.  They welcome it.  Their final note of victimhood is captivity.  They are captives to a foreign power.

It seems pathetic and embarrassing, a shame, to admit instability and frailty to the world.  The practice of past generations is to keep those revelations of personal doubt and mental anguish to one’s self.  It is not appropriate to attempt to engender sympathy by complaining in public about undesirable treatment.

The British traditionally speak of a “stiff upper lip” and “keep calm and carry on and all that.”  Their island has survived through many trials, yet Meghan and Harry present a combination of victimhood and identity politics set in contrast to and a threat to the self-sacrifice, duty, and a serious fortitude of Her Royal Highness.  Someone called it a clash between old Britain and post-Diana new Britain.  The loss of old Britain is obviously also self-inflicted as it has divorced itself from the basis of its former toughness and endurance.  At one time, Britain was a Christian nation.

In the last century at least, Winston Churchill to me stands for old Britain and consider some of his statements:

Success is the ability to go from one failure to another with no loss of enthusiasm. If you’re looking for a secret ingredient for success, then stop looking. The only thing you need is perseverance, i.e. the ability to keep going no matter what.

A pessimist sees the difficulty in every opportunity; an optimist sees the opportunity in every difficulty.

There is no time for ease and comfort. It is time to dare and endure.

The only guide to a man is his conscience; the only shield to his memory is the rectitude and sincerity of his actions. It is very imprudent to walk through life without this shield, because we are so often mocked with the failure of our hopes and the upsetting of our calculations; but with this shield, however the fates may play, we march always in the ranks of honor.

We shall draw from the heart of suffering itself the means of inspiration and survival.

Sure I am of this, that you have only to endure to conquer. You have only to persevere to save yourselves, and to save all those who rely upon you. You have only the right to go on, and at the end of the road, be it short or long, victory and honor will be found.

We shall go on to the end. We shall fight in France, we shall fight on the seas and oceans, we shall fight with growing confidence and growing strength in the air, we shall defend our island, whatever the cost may be. We shall fight on the beaches, we shall fight on the landing grounds, we shall fight in the fields and in the streets, we shall fight in the hills; we shall never surrender, and if, which I do not for a moment believe, this island or a large part of it were subjugated and starving, then our Empire beyond the seas, armed and guarded by the British Fleet, would carry on the struggle, until, in God’s good time, the New World, with all its power and might, steps forth to the rescue and the liberation of the old.

It was a generation in a sense that didn’t have time for whining.  They would never take such feelings public.  They would “carry on” in silence with a “stiff upper lip.”  This is the generation from which the queen comes.  Meghan and Harry call this being “trapped.”

Victimhood for the new generation is apparently a narrative that expresses authenticity.  No one can question the pain that someone feels any more, so as long one has been sufficiently abused, he can say almost anything without question.  It is his or her truth.  It is a very cheap replacement for true accomplishment.  Any challenge to that narrative is just further abuse.  Others identify with the story, not to their betterment or to their strengthening, but unto their further self-pity.  From this springs even more victims, who think they see in the embrace an opportunity.

Before coming back on the scene again as a leader, Winston Churchill experienced his so-called “Wilderness Years.”  During that time, Churchill wrote his four volume history, Marlborough: His Life and Times.  This wasn’t a ghost write.  Churchill among other things wrote a monumental history and became then the best selling author in all of Britain.  It was an intellectual and industrious task far beyond any modern politician.  The thinking within that massive work prepared Churchill for what was to come.  The danger for Britain from which John Churchill, Duke of Marlborough, delivered the nation was akin to what it later faced from Germany.

What is left of Western Civilization no longer can swat away something so patently deceitful as seen in the testimonies of Meghan and Harry.  In previous times, anyone would recognize these were not two victims, signing mega-million dollar deals with tech titans while ensconced behind the walls of a California mansion and wearing a $4,500 dress.  They cry for privacy while they selectively reveal intimate secrets.  The former generation would now recognize the shots fired by Meghan and Harry at the bow of old Britain, most likely preceded by hours of coaching and rehearsing to deliver the greatest possible harm, sinking it and sending it to complete oblivion.

Aspiring victims should pause to consider what winning this war will bring. It will leave a landscape so devastated that it will never return to its former self.  It will only hope to pick at the flesh from the carcass it defeated to see if it might gain the sustenance necessary to escape from a world inhabited by a majority of victims.

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