I have noticed how much happier I am when I render due benevolence. Have you rendered lately? Part of proper rendering is understanding what is due benevolence, with the emphasis on due. Wives need treatment very different than the nature of the man. Sometimes I haven’t understood it. After all, she is from Venus, right? Some other planet, that we know. I have figured out that my wife likes to be appreciated. She does a lot that deserves appreciation, but I can ratchet up the expectation level past Pluto, and no one from Venus can meet that standard. I think it is a matter of just sorting out what Scripture says and doing it. You know 1 Corinthians 7:3,4 says, “Let the husband render unto the wife due benevolence: and likewise also the wife unto the husband. The wife hath not power of her own body, but the husband: and likewise also the husband hath not power of his own body, but the wife. ” That “let the husband render” part is a command. She must be given God-designed benevolence, a unique womanly stew, ingredients hard to come by for most men. Nike had that ad campaign a few years back; maybe they still do, “Just Do It.” Regarding rendering due benevolence, victory will come in a marriage if we just do it. Most men might get around to it after a bit of complaining about how hard they have it. Notice how I switched to third person when I talked about the bad stuff. After all, I don’t complain, I just sigh very loudly, and act like I’ve had it rough. I’m working at getting due benevolence, but is that the command? I guess not.